So I made an eHarmony account about three weeks ago. I’m not actually looking to find a wife on there, though. Yeah, I know; it’s strange, but that just means it’s not out of character for me.
The Reason
The main reason I made this eHarmony account was to get a feel for the state of evangelicalism in America. I figure that the information people put in their profile is, for the most part, going to represent those qualities for which they figure most evangelical males are looking. Either that or it will—in some rare cases—represent who the person actually is.
Now, I used my own information to create the account so it’s been trying to match me with professing evangelical Christians between 18 and 25. By “professing evangelicals” I just mean people that check the “Christian” box and pick any of the popular denominations or the non-denominational option (although non-denominational is often just another word for closet-Baptist).
The Findings
My findings are, I suppose, what I expected. The actual finding of the findings, though, was really sad and rather disturbing. I have to say that the majority of people on eHarmony are either unsaved or completely incapable of articulating their beliefs. One young woman wrote that she was most thankful for her best friend and second most thankful for God because she never would have met her best friend apart from God.1
Most of the things I saw were very vague statements about the importance of faith. Some of them didn’t even make any sense, “If you don’t have faith there’s nothing worth believing.” Now, I wasn’t looking for some sort of Wynonna Grudem,2 but I was hoping to see someone mention something about Jesus or even salvation.
Not Atypical
The White Horse Inn has done a decent amount of research on this subject and their discoveries showed that my findings weren’t terribly strange.3 The vast majority of professing evangelicals in America seem to have no idea what they believe. There is a very vague sense that God exists, wants them to do good things, and wants to bless them. Something sociologist Christian Smith called moralistic, therapeutic deism.4 There is no sense that a holy, perfection-demanding God sent His Son to die to save sinners who could never save themselves. There is no gospel.
The Point
I write this, in large part, because so many of my readers are Bible college students. A lot of you guys are going into the ministry; you’re going to be counseling, teaching, and preaching. I write this also to those of you who just interact with professing evangelicals on a semi-regular basis. This is a plea for you to be explicit about the gospel. Many professing evangelicals do not understand or believe the gospel; they don’t have Jesus and they’re going to hell. Please be explicit about Jesus. Make it clear what you mean when you say you’re a Christian. Talk about His literal, brutal crucifixion. Make a big deal out of His bodily, triumphant resurrection.
Preach Christ and him crucified. Don’t soften the message. Don’t be vague. Offend people with this message. You shouldn’t be offensive to people needlessly, but you need to be offensive about this. Tell them that Jesus is the only way to God. He’s not just a good person; He’s the only good person. He’s not just the only good person; He’s God become man. He’s not just God become man; He is our only hope.
Preach Jesus, please.
- In case you’re wondering, that’s idolatry. In this way of thinking God is a means to an end; He is not the beginning and the end.↵
- This is a play on names. Wayne Grudem wrote what is probably the most popular contemporary book on systematic theology
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- Listen to the introduction show on their website to hear some of their findings.↵
- See Christian Smith, Souls in Transition: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of Emerging Adults
– a book I really want to read.↵



